5 years ago, while I was pregnant with my 6th child, I volunteered to participate in an experiment. The researchers wanted to check if there’s any correlation between the mother’s childhood traumas and the gender of a newborn, so they followed pregnant mothers from the second trimester through the baby’s birth.
I didn’t last for long…
On our first phone meeting, the researcher asked me whether I ever experience any anxiety. Me? I answered proudly. Not me!
I believed I was telling the truth and nothing but the truth, but they knew I was in denial.
I wasn’t the right candidate for this experiment.
Fast forward: several months later, I started using an incredible self-help method. One of the amazing things it did for me was that it helped me face all of my “dark sides”, including the ones I didn’t know I had.
While I don’t remember experiencing any particular trauma in childhood, I did uncover so many anxieties and fears. It was a bottomless pit!
I met inside of me a woman full of worries, stressed over the past and the present, and so scared of the future and the unknown.
This discovery clarified so many over-cautious behaviors that characterized me, such as my habit to look inside the lecture room in the university (is it really safe?) before stepping in…
It helped me understand why I sat with my oldest daughter (now 14) on the rocking chair for hours at a time, until she was at least 4 months old. I didn’t leave the house unless she had a doctor’s appointment, and my husband basically had to take over all of the household chores.
Hmmmm…. Maybe that explains my obsession with peace of mind and personal growth as I mother my children. 🙂 The responsibility of raising children can be so emotionally (and physically) daunting, come to think about it, there’s no way to explain how we mothers keep up our good spirit, day in and day out, short of a miracle!
So check out today’s video, where I share a time-tested method for releasing your fears about your loved ones. One day at a time.
Whenever I remember to use it, the world all of a sudden feels like a much safer place. I have no doubt that anything that works for an anxiety-ridden mother like me will work for you, too.
Now, this episode was made to empower you, so make sure to make it your own.
So what I invite you to do is to experience a worry-free moment right now. Imagine your children, wherever they may be, safe and sound, and taken care of.
Then take a deep breath, and tell us in the comments how it worked for you.
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Thank you for being with me today,
P.S. In case you’re curious, the research concluded that there IS a dramatic correlation between the mother’s childhood traumas and her baby’s gender! Childhood trauma increases the chances of giving birth to girls! (it has to do with the releasing of stress hormones.)
Interestingly enough, most of my children are… girls. Including Eliana, who was born around the time the experiment took place. (Now what does that say about my stress levels?:))