I don’t believe anyone can promise you a guilt-free parenting trip.
But I can help you land on your feet, no matter what you’re going through internally when you feel you’ve wronged your kids.
See how on today’s episode.
My own first (and unforgettable) taste of mothering guilt took place when Alma, my oldest, was 18 months old.
That afternoon, I buckled her in her high chair, and festively presented her with the large stringing beads I had bought that day.
“I’ll first show you how what to do with the beads”, I announced to Alma, “and then you will do it yourself.” Judging by her expression, she realized that this was very important to her mommy. Seconds later, and after some fumbling with her tiny fingers, it was clear that she had no idea how to use the beads. In my first-time-ever anger at her, I raised my voice and made sure to tell her how upset I am that she couldn’t do it (!).
What was meant to be her first “intelligent” experience turned into my crash course in parenting guilt.
Almost 13 years—and 6 more births– went by since.
I’m now so much more well equipped to deal with the guilt that accompanies some of my day to day interactions with my children.
Along the way, I still fall and stumble just like any mother I know. My external challenges and internal struggles are not different than those of any other conscious mother
So I’m not going to suggest a guilt-free trip, no. But my tips today can help you land on your feet, no matter what you’re going through internally when you feel you’ve wronged your kids.
Watch it here, and start experiencing guilt for what it really is: a “something” in you that calls you to change direction. You’ll see exactly what I mean when you do the 30 –second exercise I share in the video.
After you’ve watched the episode, tell me:
What mental and/or physical shift did you experience when doing the “Focusing” exercise?
What’s your tip for pulling yourself out of mothering guilt?
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